a friend of mine is stuck in a rut called relationship. she's in love with a man who also loves her with all his heart, but his mom cannot and will not accept her into the family. she is devastated, confused and heartbroken.
when we were young, we go through relationships not caring about other people, family members or friends as long as we're together. but as we grow older, we realize that being married doesn't only mean being together with the man we love, but it involves a lot of people. being married means we join ourselves with our partner, his family and his friends. love is blind, and we will do all our best to make things work even though we know that it's not meant to be. but as muslims, we have to learn to let go and accept God's way and sometimes letting go is better than holding on to things we are unsure of.
i tried to advise my friend, told her it's better to get out from the relationship and move on with her life, rather that sticking to something that have ran out of glue. the man will not leave his mother for his heaven is under her feet, and if we force it to happen, it's not something we do as Muslims. but she said until he says enough, and until he breaks it off, she will not budge from the relationship. it's so sad that she's willing to let go of her pride and honour for a man with a mother who will never accept her. it breaks my heart to see she's willing to sacrifice her future for him.. yes i know she loves him, but sometimes love alone isn't enough.
what is there for me to do? i guess i'll just have to stick by her decision and pick her up when she falls into the well...because that's what friends are for. (thanks choi)